It's a very old variant on the name. It honestly never occurred to me to refer to him otherwise? I think when one turns that old, those who remember the past become valued. That is, of course, not a blanket term as I'm sure some prefer otherwise, but most fall under that in my experience.
That is a question, isn't it?
Hob never met my wife. She was before his time. I never met his wife, either. Due to my own folly. ... I have been batting this about in my head, back and forth. What to share, what to commit. Not out of embarrassment, but out of... what is being built? I don't know. I value you, what we have. It is less a matter of private and public and more a matter what of what you want, and what we want.
I hold dumb grudges. We all hold dumb grudges. I won't admit it around family if you won't.
[OOC: Sorry for the deletion, something weird happened on my end and it looked like I hadn't replied to the comment above.]
Perhaps in person would be best, though it isn't without merit to have such topics broached now to be finalized later. You are always very much welcome company, over the phone or otherwise. And if reassurance is needed, I am committed to what we have and where I hope we are going. I simply wasn't certain when was the right time to talk about it, and see where we both stood on the matter. Timing and pacing have not been my strong suits, in the past.
I appreciate the reassurance, especially right before you leave for work, and I agree that talking in person would be best since sometimes tone can be misunderstood through text.
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Date: 2022-10-16 12:57 am (UTC)That is a question, isn't it?
Hob never met my wife. She was before his time. I never met his wife, either. Due to my own folly. ... I have been batting this about in my head, back and forth. What to share, what to commit. Not out of embarrassment, but out of... what is being built? I don't know. I value you, what we have. It is less a matter of private and public and more a matter what of what you want, and what we want.
I hold dumb grudges. We all hold dumb grudges. I won't admit it around family if you won't.
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Date: 2022-10-16 01:18 am (UTC)Oh. Would you prefer to discuss these topics in person when you get back? I don't want it to distract you while you're away for work.
My lips are sealed.
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Date: 2022-10-16 12:57 pm (UTC)Perhaps in person would be best, though it isn't without merit to have such topics broached now to be finalized later. You are always very much welcome company, over the phone or otherwise. And if reassurance is needed, I am committed to what we have and where I hope we are going. I simply wasn't certain when was the right time to talk about it, and see where we both stood on the matter. Timing and pacing have not been my strong suits, in the past.
When I get back, then?
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Date: 2022-10-16 04:56 pm (UTC)I appreciate the reassurance, especially right before you leave for work, and I agree that talking in person would be best since sometimes tone can be misunderstood through text.
So yes, when you get back.