It's a very old variant on the name. It honestly never occurred to me to refer to him otherwise? I think when one turns that old, those who remember the past become valued. That is, of course, not a blanket term as I'm sure some prefer otherwise, but most fall under that in my experience.

That is a question, isn't it?

Hob never met my wife. She was before his time. I never met his wife, either. Due to my own folly. ... I have been batting this about in my head, back and forth. What to share, what to commit. Not out of embarrassment, but out of... what is being built? I don't know. I value you, what we have. It is less a matter of private and public and more a matter what of what you want, and what we want.

I hold dumb grudges. We all hold dumb grudges. I won't admit it around family if you won't.