I cannot say his advice has been revelatory, but in his defense, I have actually courted women far longer than he has. And it is not bad advice to advocate learning a woman's likes and dislikes, being invested in her well being, and showing her affection through various means such as time or surprises. I can prioritize work, so it is fair to remind me that people deserve equal consideration.

Your friend sounds respectful of boundaries.

Yes, that also came as a surprise. Truthfully, we did not know what to expect with his arrival. Not that any parent fully does, but they usually know that much.